In one word I want consistency
So when a dear friend of mine asked me : ‘ What Do
you want In a romantic relationship? ‘
I stayed quiet for a while trying to put all my thoughts together and then I said with a smile and glowing eyes :
" In love I
want simplicity , authenticity and emotional safety.
I don’t
want to be put on a pedestal nor to be idealized , I want to be accepted for who I am_imperfect ,boring sometimes ,wild , over emotional and passionate .
I don't want to be told that I am beautiful nor 'sexy' , I want to feel respected ,
valued and appreciated .
I don’t
want a fairy tale nor a super hero , I want to fight and argue and communicate
with a man who sees me as an equal partner .
I don’t
want love speeches but I want to be told that I am enough and worthy even if I am flawed .
I don’t
really want love letters nor poems , I want patience, compassion and someone who cares .
I don’t
want fancy dates nor gifts , I want a red rose from a while to an other and a
goodnight text .
I don’t
want promises and phone calls , I crave long walks on the beach, holding hands, endless hugs , cuddling and sometimes silence .
I don’t
want a big romance like the movies , I want adventures and road trips and lots of nature and
other humans .
I am not searching for a soul mate who shares all my passions , I am looking for a man who encourages me to keep doing what makes me happy and go after my dreams .
I would
never ask for constant attention but I would refuse to be taken for granted .
I don’t
want to be spoiled , I want to be heard , understood and validated .
I want
actions more than words : I don't want to hear "I love you", I want to feel it daily .
I want presence , connection and empathy .
I want
trust and loyalty .
I want "real" because "extraordinary" only exists in fiction.
In one word I want 'consistency ' . "
Sharing our life with a lover who struggles to make our moments full of hapiness is the most important . healthy relationships (balancd relationships ) started to vanish because love is a fight that needs sacrifice in which the two parteners must be mentally engaged to become a one soul. They must share their fears,emotions and the"rise and fall"of their sentimental life
RépondreSupprimerI agree with you . Being emotionally open and dare to be vulnerable is the key to authentic relationships . It is really sad to see that people are searching for perfection and for fairy tales instead of working it out through the daily struggles .
SupprimerSuccesful love stories become a worldwide controversy . many debates have been written but they don't have the right answers when the attitude of people becomes "gloomy". Couple's therapy is not the magical word but being a man of values and an openminded woman makes life full of joy . a man who is faithful and comprehensive is a must because trust is the soul ,(she never get back to the body ) when treason become a lifestyle . in one word, stable minds build together a kingdom of passion that no one can dare to just put a step on it
RépondreSupprimerWhat you're saying is very deep :)
SupprimerThe great lord paint for us ,in our hearts, a great feeling : we call it "love" .four letters that build for us a castle which protect us from loneliness (which is deadly and vicious) . we made this feeling hard to achieve by being selfish. I know the path is far and difficult .but when the woman heals the wounded heart of her lover and the man stops her tears . the hardships that the couple overcame make them stronger like a tree against a twister
RépondreSupprimerYes but all I can see around are men who are the main cause of womens' tears .. and women who wound mens' hearts on purpose . I believe in the saying " we take the love we think we deserve " . So each one of us would settle into the relationship that suits him and his standards .
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